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Body language Becoming fluent in body language will ensure that you will be skilled in attracting the right partner and sending the get lost signal to the wrong ones. The more eye contact you establish with the target the better. Start with some sidelong glances. Then, begin with direct eye contact. Once they turns to meet your gaze, immediately lower your eyes and smile to yourself. This will show that you were watching and are embarrassed that you were caught. Next, be bold and try holding the stare and flash a smile. If someone is giving you the eye and you are not interested, look away and don't look back at him again. Looking at the ceiling and around the room shows a definite lack of interest. First impressions count When you enter a room, most people look to see who has come in. This is when you have to make an impression. Looking your best will make you feel your best. Even without direct contact, your hands can send very powerful messages. There are a number of ways to convey that you want to get to know someone. Keeping your hands unclenched shows you're open, try touching to punctuate a point, or using the "accidental touch" when reaching for something. Hands jammed in pockets or balled in tight fists are all bad signs. Finger tapping, drumming, pointing or wagging are also signals to move on. Your posture is one of the most telling signals you transmit. An open posture is evidence of an open person. Turning your body toward someone you're conversing with, keeping your feet flat on the floor and leaning forward are actions that show interest. Also, slightly tilting your head, crossing and uncrossing your legs and thrusting your chest forward give the message that you are interested. Crossing your arms, holding a drink high in front of you, turning your body away or resting your feet on their toes will tell a person you are not interested. You know things are going really well when you begin "mirroring" one another's body language and gestures. |
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